My husband has a son who is 13 years old. We'll call this son Kid for the purposes of this blog which I will make every attempt to keep anonymous. Due to Kid's mother, Husband has seen Kid only a handful of times in the last 8 years. I only met him for the first time a few weeks ago! Kid's Mom (who I will henceforth call BM, short for Baby Mama) suddenly decided that Kid was going to come from the Midwest to our home in Colorado for the rest of the summer... over 2 months. Long story short, we didn't really have a way to say no.
I have no children (although I've had a lot of experience with other people's kids) and this unexpected disruption in our lives, not to mention strain on our finances (as BM sees no reason why she should still get child support while Kid is in our care), has put a lot of stress on me. I decided to get it all out, rather than letting it eat away at my sanity, and write my thoughts, feelings, worries, experiences, etc. in this blog.
I don't expect that BM will ever see this (although I don't really care if she does). I'm writing for my benefit only. Kid has been here for a little over a week and I've had night after night of my brain not "shutting off" and letting me sleep, mulling over all my thoughts & concerns. So, I'm going to try to get it all out here rather than stew.
I plan to write my posts as letters from the step-mom. I guess they'll be letters directed at the BM but, even if she does ever find this, I know she won't listen or take any of my words to heart. I wish she would, for the sake of Kid, but that's out of my control. I have no sympathy or care for BM. I do feel sorry for Kid & hope that his time with us makes an impact. If I start with specifics now, this post will become novel-length so I'll let it all come out as I go.
I will moderate comments & I'm not sure if I'll publish them or not. I don't expect anyone to read this, much less comment. But, comments are welcome if anyone does find this, what will probably be weird & confusing, blog. So, I guess that more or less explains my purpose. Much more to come!
*Edit: I've decided using BM for Baby Mama is just going to get confusing later so I'll use the Mom. So the cast of characters is Kid, Husband (mine), Mom and Stepmom (me).
I have no children (although I've had a lot of experience with other people's kids) and this unexpected disruption in our lives, not to mention strain on our finances (as BM sees no reason why she should still get child support while Kid is in our care), has put a lot of stress on me. I decided to get it all out, rather than letting it eat away at my sanity, and write my thoughts, feelings, worries, experiences, etc. in this blog.
I don't expect that BM will ever see this (although I don't really care if she does). I'm writing for my benefit only. Kid has been here for a little over a week and I've had night after night of my brain not "shutting off" and letting me sleep, mulling over all my thoughts & concerns. So, I'm going to try to get it all out here rather than stew.
I plan to write my posts as letters from the step-mom. I guess they'll be letters directed at the BM but, even if she does ever find this, I know she won't listen or take any of my words to heart. I wish she would, for the sake of Kid, but that's out of my control. I have no sympathy or care for BM. I do feel sorry for Kid & hope that his time with us makes an impact. If I start with specifics now, this post will become novel-length so I'll let it all come out as I go.
I will moderate comments & I'm not sure if I'll publish them or not. I don't expect anyone to read this, much less comment. But, comments are welcome if anyone does find this, what will probably be weird & confusing, blog. So, I guess that more or less explains my purpose. Much more to come!
*Edit: I've decided using BM for Baby Mama is just going to get confusing later so I'll use the Mom. So the cast of characters is Kid, Husband (mine), Mom and Stepmom (me).
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