The Kid is now back with the Mom. Husband left our house Thursday night & dropped Kid off on Friday night. This is a few days earlier than was originally agreed upon. I think the original date was like tomorrow or something so, after just under two months away, a few days shouldn't be a concern, right?
Well, when dealing with the Mom, everything is a concern. Nothing is "okay" when it doesn't follow her plan (or idea of what the plan should be, whether she communicated this idea to anyone or not). It's her way or she has a hissy fit. So, instead of being glad to see her son or pleasantly surprised at the early return (suggested first by the Kid because he understandably missed his home & mother), she got mad. And not just a little upset, oh no! She immediately began yelling about how the return of her child has messed up HER plans! Never mind anyone else, her life has been inconvenienced! So, she began yelling and throwing things (breaking a laptop gifted from Husband to Kid in the process!) instead of being happy to see her child.
I have no idea what her plans might have been and, yes, she was not aware that Kid was coming back early. So, I understand being annoyed at the change. But to have a childish temper tantrum in front of the Kid? Immature & unacceptable in my opinion. Go ahead & yell at Husband (he's used to you doing it) but not in front of your child who has missed you & is happy to be back with you! How do you think that made Kid feel?
The Mom had just under two months without her child & she seems to have taken this time as a vacation & time to party it up. I think this is understandable to a degree. She hasn't allowed the Kid spend any time away from her, at least not with us, for any length of time so she does deserve a break. She deserves to have some fun. The issue that I take with this is that she has, MANY times, expressed that she has no money, can't afford anything (although she still received child support while we had the Kid even though it states in the DFS rules that she must notify them if the Kid is in Husband's custody for over 30 days... but that's another story) & can't take time any off work because her job is in jeopardy. However, she took four trips while Kid was with us. Four. FOUR!
I understand that the trips may have been paid for my her "boyfriend" or her father (who apparently gives her anything she asks for, from what Kid has told us... again, unprompted & unasked). But, she definitely did take time off work. So obviously her job can't be in that much jeopardy, right? Also, who has ever taken a trip, even if it was paid for by someone else, & hasn't spent at least a little of their own money? Souvenirs, food, whatever. So she had at least a little money to take these trips. FOUR trips to four different parts of the country!
What really irritates me is that the Mom lies. Many things that she says turn out to be untrue. She "can't" take time off work to help get her child out to us or back home but will do it no problem to go see Pearl Jam in Chicago. She has "no" money to help get her child here or home or to help with basics like food (again, while she is still getting child support) but has money to have fun.
Again, I get that the Mom deserves a break & to have some fun. She finally allowed Kid to have time with his father, which is awesome! I wish I had the money to go to Chicago or the other places she went (I can't remember where it was right now). What bothers me most is the lies & deception. Lying from anyone bothers me but the Mom lying affects the Kid negatively & he's learning that behavior from her example and that's just not right.
Well, when dealing with the Mom, everything is a concern. Nothing is "okay" when it doesn't follow her plan (or idea of what the plan should be, whether she communicated this idea to anyone or not). It's her way or she has a hissy fit. So, instead of being glad to see her son or pleasantly surprised at the early return (suggested first by the Kid because he understandably missed his home & mother), she got mad. And not just a little upset, oh no! She immediately began yelling about how the return of her child has messed up HER plans! Never mind anyone else, her life has been inconvenienced! So, she began yelling and throwing things (breaking a laptop gifted from Husband to Kid in the process!) instead of being happy to see her child.
I have no idea what her plans might have been and, yes, she was not aware that Kid was coming back early. So, I understand being annoyed at the change. But to have a childish temper tantrum in front of the Kid? Immature & unacceptable in my opinion. Go ahead & yell at Husband (he's used to you doing it) but not in front of your child who has missed you & is happy to be back with you! How do you think that made Kid feel?
The Mom had just under two months without her child & she seems to have taken this time as a vacation & time to party it up. I think this is understandable to a degree. She hasn't allowed the Kid spend any time away from her, at least not with us, for any length of time so she does deserve a break. She deserves to have some fun. The issue that I take with this is that she has, MANY times, expressed that she has no money, can't afford anything (although she still received child support while we had the Kid even though it states in the DFS rules that she must notify them if the Kid is in Husband's custody for over 30 days... but that's another story) & can't take time any off work because her job is in jeopardy. However, she took four trips while Kid was with us. Four. FOUR!
I understand that the trips may have been paid for my her "boyfriend" or her father (who apparently gives her anything she asks for, from what Kid has told us... again, unprompted & unasked). But, she definitely did take time off work. So obviously her job can't be in that much jeopardy, right? Also, who has ever taken a trip, even if it was paid for by someone else, & hasn't spent at least a little of their own money? Souvenirs, food, whatever. So she had at least a little money to take these trips. FOUR trips to four different parts of the country!
What really irritates me is that the Mom lies. Many things that she says turn out to be untrue. She "can't" take time off work to help get her child out to us or back home but will do it no problem to go see Pearl Jam in Chicago. She has "no" money to help get her child here or home or to help with basics like food (again, while she is still getting child support) but has money to have fun.
Again, I get that the Mom deserves a break & to have some fun. She finally allowed Kid to have time with his father, which is awesome! I wish I had the money to go to Chicago or the other places she went (I can't remember where it was right now). What bothers me most is the lies & deception. Lying from anyone bothers me but the Mom lying affects the Kid negatively & he's learning that behavior from her example and that's just not right.
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