Okay, so, here's the thing: your child is not Autistic. You continue to tell people, and Kid, that he is Autistic but he is not. I've heard since I've known Husband that Kid is Autistic but, after just a few days with him, I could tell that he's not.
Let me say now that I'm not denying that Autism is a thing. There are plenty of children who do have it, all over the spectrum. They deal with it every minute of their lives, as do their parents. I actually think it is an insult to those kids & parents that you continue to say Kid is Autistic when he really isn't.
Kid displays NONE of the behaviors on any level of the Autism Spectrum. For example, a well known symptom with many Autistic people is lack of eye contact. Kid makes direct eye contact with us all the time. When I say his name, he immediately looks at me in the eye. A second well known symptom is lack of physical contact. Well... the first time I met Kid, he came out of the house & immediately gave me a big hug. He asks for hugs constantly. These are both very stereotypical ideas of how Autism is but they are glaringly absent in Kid.
I'm not only going by my own opinion & research on this. For one, several people who were with us over the weekend & interacted with Kid noted that he did not display any Autism characteristics (including a teacher who specializes in that sort of thing). Secondly, I was able to read through the packet of documents (written diagnoses & recommendations from several doctors as well as documents from his school including an "Individual Education Plan") that you sent along with Kid. I'm not really clear as to why you sent it except that maybe you wanted us to only look at the document on top: the one document that declares Autism.
I put in date order & read carefully through all of the documents you sent. I researched terms & tests that I wasn't familiar with. What I saw is that one test given by one doctor when Kid was 5 years old is the one that diagnosed Autism. Then, in each document I read after that, several doctors and the school documented that Kid does NOT have Autism. There is not one diagnosis of it after that one when he was five. The one diagnosis that does keep coming up & seems to be what he actually has is ODD (Oppositional Defiant Disorder). This is the diagnosis that you should be concentrating on. It is very clear, from even the short Wikipedia definition, that this is what Kid is struggling with, not Autism.
I wonder if you understand how much you are hurting your child by continuing to perpetrate a false diagnosis. For one, you are giving him an "excuse" to act in a certain way. Rather than learning to act as he should, he acts as he wants & blames it on a condition. This is clear. Secondly, you have branded him with a label that will follow him for the rest of his life, or until he realizes that it isn't true. My instinct is that he will discover that it isn't true and then you are in for a world of hurt. That boy is going to be so mad at you, if not truly hate you, for doing this to him.
Another term I'd really like for you to look at is Munchausen syndrome by proxy. Just sayin'.
Let me say now that I'm not denying that Autism is a thing. There are plenty of children who do have it, all over the spectrum. They deal with it every minute of their lives, as do their parents. I actually think it is an insult to those kids & parents that you continue to say Kid is Autistic when he really isn't.
Kid displays NONE of the behaviors on any level of the Autism Spectrum. For example, a well known symptom with many Autistic people is lack of eye contact. Kid makes direct eye contact with us all the time. When I say his name, he immediately looks at me in the eye. A second well known symptom is lack of physical contact. Well... the first time I met Kid, he came out of the house & immediately gave me a big hug. He asks for hugs constantly. These are both very stereotypical ideas of how Autism is but they are glaringly absent in Kid.
I'm not only going by my own opinion & research on this. For one, several people who were with us over the weekend & interacted with Kid noted that he did not display any Autism characteristics (including a teacher who specializes in that sort of thing). Secondly, I was able to read through the packet of documents (written diagnoses & recommendations from several doctors as well as documents from his school including an "Individual Education Plan") that you sent along with Kid. I'm not really clear as to why you sent it except that maybe you wanted us to only look at the document on top: the one document that declares Autism.
I put in date order & read carefully through all of the documents you sent. I researched terms & tests that I wasn't familiar with. What I saw is that one test given by one doctor when Kid was 5 years old is the one that diagnosed Autism. Then, in each document I read after that, several doctors and the school documented that Kid does NOT have Autism. There is not one diagnosis of it after that one when he was five. The one diagnosis that does keep coming up & seems to be what he actually has is ODD (Oppositional Defiant Disorder). This is the diagnosis that you should be concentrating on. It is very clear, from even the short Wikipedia definition, that this is what Kid is struggling with, not Autism.
I wonder if you understand how much you are hurting your child by continuing to perpetrate a false diagnosis. For one, you are giving him an "excuse" to act in a certain way. Rather than learning to act as he should, he acts as he wants & blames it on a condition. This is clear. Secondly, you have branded him with a label that will follow him for the rest of his life, or until he realizes that it isn't true. My instinct is that he will discover that it isn't true and then you are in for a world of hurt. That boy is going to be so mad at you, if not truly hate you, for doing this to him.
Another term I'd really like for you to look at is Munchausen syndrome by proxy. Just sayin'.
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